Deed of the Week: Stop Making Excuses

Halfway through the semester and I am already pretty exhausted! I went out of my way to catch up on homework and school work so I could dedicate this weekend to working on getting some videos on YouTube up. I mentioned in a previous post that I am trying to learn how to video edit and film a little bit more because I want to branch out to YouTube. I figured that this would be the best time of the year to start a channel because of Halloween. This holiday gives me an opportunity to show my creative side with costumes and makeup so I figured, why not?!

I am going to hopefully release a costume video tomorrow and then a different one on Wednesday. This week’s characters are both Disney characters, one is a male character and the other is a female. I think you guys will know who the female character is if you are following me on Instagram. I am eager to show you guys what I have been working on and I hope you will all like what you see.

YouTube is one of those things that I thought would be interesting to do so I stopped making excuses and decided to just go for it. I want you to challenge yourself to set aside some time and think about something that you have always wanted to do, yet find yourself making excuses. Figure out what is preventing you and ignore those excuses and just go for it! If you needed some encouragement to get out and do something, this is it. What is something that you have always wanted to do? Take the first step this week and see how far it takes you and just keep going!

if you’ve seen the Bernie Mac show, you will remember when Jordan said the greatest simile which is, “Excuses are just like butts, everyone’s got one but they all stink!”

Stay stylish!

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Fashion Deed Of The Week 2

It’s Sunday night. Where did the weekend go?

I am going to follow through with the Sunday night trend where I give you a random act of kindness challenge that I want you to apply this week.

Here is the scenario:

You just get paid and you want to treat yourself to a little shopping spree inside your favorite store. You clock out of your shift in excitement and make your way straight to the store. You walk in and aren’t helped by anyone. In fact, you aren’t even greeted when you walk into the door, yet you see associates looking at you as you make your way into the store. As you shop, you notice that the employees are just talking among one another and pay no attention you or to the other customers unless someone directly approaches them and asks for help. You buy what you want to buy, but then decide to go to a different store. In this next store, you are approached by an associate who asks you if you need any help. You kindly tell them that you just want to take a look around. The associate introduces themself and encourages you to ask them for anything you may need help with. In this second store, you experience great customer experience and have a great time there versus the first store you walked into where you weren’t even acknowledged.

Where am I going with this?

I know that not everyone works retail, but retail jobs aren’t the only jobs that require you to work on your customer service skills or people skills. If you are at work, do your best and treat your customers the same way that you would want to be treated. I have worked retail and call centers and I can tell you right now that I have had to provide customer service in both of these jobs and have done my best to help people out the best way that I can. It’s really disheartening when you work all day and provide good customer service yet go somewhere as a customer and get treated with poor customer service. Am I right?

Let’s switch things around…

Let’s say that you are the customer and you need assistance with something, remember that an associate or employee is not your slave that you can talk down to and demand things right then and there. Do NOT be that customer that can ruin and associate’s day!

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I understand frustration on both ends. Maybe you’re an angry customer who has gone to several places yet no one has been able to help you. Or maybe you’re an employee who has been treated rudely by many customers and it is really bringing you down. Either way it sucks. It’s miserable. It’s no fun. So don’t be that person. Respect one another. Act as a decent human being.

Please remember this blog whether you are a customer wanting to go to the store, or an employee who is going to clock into work. Be kind. Do your best. Be helpful.

That is all I have for you guys tonight. I will talk to you all on Monday! Stay stylish 🙂

 

24%

When you hear someone say scientist or doctor, do you think of a man or a woman?

48% of women make up the U.S. workforce, and about 24% of women work in STEM jobs.

STEM, Science, Technology, Engineering and Mathematics, are all subjects that have always intimidated me. I wanted to be a veterinarian when I was a little girl. I aced biology my freshman year of high school, but fell flat on my face when I took AP chemistry the following year. I proceeded with the belief that a vet’s life was for me, despite the voice in the back of my head that told me that this wasn’t working out.

When I finally listened to that voice, it was one of the most confusing times of my life. All my childhood, I was set on being a vet. I only had one more year of high school left before my college career would be depending on some sort of plan. I did not have a plan B. I never thought I would need it.

My dad would remind me about the demand for female engineers being high and that if I were to go into engineering in college, I would be guaranteed a job right out of college. I let this sit in my mind for a while. My father does civil engineering. I think he is a genius. I am blown away to this day, of the things my father is capable of accomplishing as an engineer. He recently passed his PE exam and didn’t even pass it the first time. His second attempt successfully declared him as a licensed engineer. YAY!!!

As much as it would have been super cool to say that my father and I are both engineers, I just genuinely did not have an interest in it. This put me back in square one.

Throughout this time, I wrote a lot. I found comfort in writing works of fiction, narratives, poems, my day, experiences and so forth. So I figured, why not be an English professor or a journalist? So there I went again, believing that my plan B was sure enough, the life for me, but then I took my Intro to English Studies class and never felt more miserable in my life! This was last spring semester, so I took a leap of faith and changed my english minor to business.

That brings me back here to where I am in life right now. I took another leap of faith by leaving my retail job and applying for a campus job that was in the field of Information and Communication Technologies. God knows I am probably one of the least tech savvy millenials ever! How was I ever going to last in a technology based job?

I’m glad to say that I have been at my current job for almost two years already.

That may not seem like a long time, but this is the longest time I have ever been at any part time job I’ve had. My technology skills have improved since being here and I know that it has made me a more knowledgeable being. Seeing my female co-workers work here has inspired me greatly. They’ll honestly never truly know.

I wish I could say that I am a woman in science. I think it is so cool and admirable. I also know that it takes a lot of work. It takes a lot of studying. It takes determination. It takes passion and strength from the inside and out. My woman STEM students and workers, I salute you for being a part of the 24% we have out there in the nation right now. I hope to see this number grow.

STEM

 

 

My First Photo Shoot

My fashion account on Instagram was born June 4th, 2017. Just five days after its birth, I did my very first photo shoot at a park. I had chosen three different outfits and of course, my boyfriend was my photographer. I decided to talk about this today because I know a lot of you may be fashion bloggers or fashion lovers who see a lot of people on social media looking flawless all the time and may wonder how a person could be so photogenic and great looking all the time.

I did my very first photo shoot on June 9th and had to find my strength to not run away from the camera. All my life I believed that I just wasn’t photogenic and that I could never stand in front of a camera. EVER.

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On the other hand, people complimenting my outfits would spark a voice in the back of my head that would tell me that I should try becoming a fashion blogger. I always ignored it because I told myself that I would never be like the fashion bloggers or beauty gurus I see on YouTube or Instagram and that my pictures would suck and that no one would follow me, yadda, yadda.

Then I had to take my Portfolio and Professional Development class earlier this summer.

My professor wanted us to create a digital portfolio to display what we wanted to do as a career. Even though I am studying Communications, I still have no idea what I truly want out of it. It seemed like all my classmates were ahead of the game and soon I was intimidated by photographers who had their own work to display, journalist who had articles they had written and then there was me. I had nothing to really show for myself and I found myself waking up in the middle of the night believing that I wasn’t good at anything.

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I then decided, what the hell? Who am I living for? Why am I here feeling sorry for myself? I am pretty great at dressing up. I know this may sound very arrogant, but sometimes you have to toot your own horn. It worked for me because soon I found myself activating my Instagram account, creating this blog, and taking pictures without running away from it!

The pictures you see in this post are all from my very first photo shoot. I did three different outfits and I felt super awkward and uncomfortable that I probably would have not been able to take decent pictures if anyone other than my boyfriend was my photographer. I felt silly doing certain poses or facial expressions because I was in a public place and I knew that out of curiosity, people would look from time to time.

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I honestly look at these pictures and see a difference in how I take photos now versus then. I am more confident in front of the camera now-a-days. It took consistent work and motivation to try harder and I still have both great and not so great photo shoots still. There are just some days that your photos come out great and other days where a domino effect of bad luck just happens. I am glad I am able to share with you all some stepping stones to my fashion endeavor and I hope that this motivates you to overcome camera awkwardness or makes you feel better about your own pictures!

Share this blog with someone who may be camera shy or is stopping themselves from going after that dream the voice in the back of their head is urging them to go for!

Stay stylish!

Yes, I know this image looks like I am smelling my armpit! But cut me some slack, this was my first photo shoot and I had NO idea how to pose hahaha

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Building My Core & Confidence

You guys, I just finished a 10 minute workout video from YouTube fitness trainer Cassey Ho on her channel Blogilates. She released a video about a week ago titled, ‘5 Ways to Build your Core & Confidence’ and I have to admit that it was the hardest ab workout I have done.

I am talking about this today because I am the type of person who gains a little bit of weight and just doesn’t like the way that my clothes look on me anymore. Before I continue, please know that I am not body shaming or trying to preach on how we all have to live a certain healthy lifestyle. I am here to talk to you guys like the very honest person I am and a person who has real thoughts and feelings.

Earlier this year my mom sat down and talked to me and pretty much told me that she noticed that I was gaining weight. She told me this right when I was eating some leftover Chinese food from the night before. Hearing her tell me that she has notice weight gain in me, made me lose my appetite for my leftover food. I was speechless. I was hurt. I couldn’t believe what I was hearing from my mom. Despite how shitty I felt inside, my poker face remained while in my mother’s presence. But once I got in my room, I started trying on some clothes in my closet. Unfortunately my mom was right. I did gain some weight. All the clothes that used to make me feel cute and stylish, just didn’t sit right on my body. They were too tight. They wouldn’t zip up. I was heartbroken.

To make my wake up call even more devastating, I snuck into my mom’s room and weighed myself. I’ll never forget it. I weighed 144 pounds.

I remember venting to my boyfriend about this and I’m not going to lie, I told him that I weighed in at 134 pounds because I did not want to hear the words coming out of my mouth that I was only six pounds away from 150 pounds. I am a 5 ft. 2 in. girl who has weighed 120 the most so when I saw that I had gained almost 25 pounds, my heart ached and my mind was just all over the place.

My fitness journey began shortly after my birthday back in January and although I have not stepped back on the scale, I am pleased to say that half the clothes that didn’t fit me a few months ago, are back to fitting me like they used to. I was using my resources such as the gym at my work and even the gym at my school. I was making myself lean meals and drinking lots of water. Any other type of beverage was for Saturday only.

My mom and I have not talked about my weight since, and as much as it really hurt me to hear my own mother tell me that I was gaining weight, it’s what I needed in order to have this healthy change in myself. So that ties me back into the video I mentioned earlier. Starting out Blogilates videos was very hard in the beginning. Even though they were only 5 or 10 minutes, I always found myself getting frustrated and wanting to give up. It seemed like I would take one step forward and two steps back, but if you are too afraid to fail, you will never succeed. 

Another thing that I started doing this year is lifting weights. Before I had no upper body strength and was getting tired lifting 3 pound weights, but now I lift 8 pounds. It may not seem like a big difference, but it is a healthy difference for me and my body. My stomach is getting flatter. My arms have gotten firmer. My running has remained steady and great for my heart. But most importantly, my confidence has escalated with the help of living a healthier lifestyle and my fashion endeavor.

I want women of all ages to know that they can find their strength when they hit rock bottom. I want women to know that they can jump back into being a healthier version of themselves whether it is physically, mentally, spiritually or any other way. I want women to not apologize for putting themselves first and wanting to be their own kind of Wonder Woman. If you really want something, you have to begin some type of journey for yourself.

I want to know what your dreams are and what you have done to reach them. And if you haven’t began your journey to your goals, what is holding you back?

Think about what it is you want out of your life and how you can become the best version of  yourself.

Build your core. Build your confidence. Stay Stylish.

What The Rain Told Me

Hello everyone! As you know from yesterday’s post, it was raining here in my hometown. I left out some details of the significance of the rainy weather so let me explain by saying this first, it stormed so badly in my area that I was only at work for an hour before everyone was sent home due to a bug power outage. The rain came in with a bang and caused flooding, many accidents, power outages, stalled cars, lightning shows, gusts of raging wind and panic to a lot of people who were out and about or watching the news at home. Eventually the rain did stop in the evening, but man was it scary Monday morning.

I never saw this storm coming. Never heard form anywhere that there was a chance of rain or anything like that so I was definitely taken off guard. Secondly, the rain washed away a lot of filth. The plants are standing tall and bright now and the streets in the neighborhoods look brand new. Whatever bird poop was on my car prior to the storm was long gone and when the sun finally peeked out, it was like a different place than before. This got me thinking of my how much my soul could use a bit of cleansing.

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I had school, work, my fashion endeavor, my fitness journey and social life all over the place and organization was non-existent. I am going to really try to be more consistent and to be honest, I really enjoy blogging at night before bed because it reminds me of how I used to write in my diary, but once school starts, I am not sure if anyone is going to stay up to read my blog. I can still post in the evening, but it would probably be at 9 p.m. which I believe is a respectable hour.

Speaking of consistency, I want to transform my Instagram into a set theme or pattern instead of posting random things all the time. I have been YouTubing videos on how to edit photos, how to pose, how to set a theme, how to view grids and all sorts of things. I am able to dive deeper into this now that I finished my summer courses! I took two classes and gave it my best shot and thankfully came out with passing grades in both classes. I owe it to myself these next two weeks to put myself first now and focus wholeheartedly on my blog and on my Instagram and of course taking some fashion photos for you all.

So how does any of this relate to the rain we had over here?

Well for starters, the rain was pretty scary at first and things got pretty ugly. I felt this way when I started this blog and my Instagram account. I found myself doing the first photo shoot and felt kinda silly posing in a park. I honestly felt overwhelmed and tired afterwards. Overwhelmed and tired were feelings that I got know a bit too much this summer. Now that I do not have to worry about going to school, some weight has been taken off my shoulders.

Secondly, the rain went all out at first and flooded everything, but after a while it was more steady. This is how I feel about the way my Instagram account is. I uploaded about four photos the first day I created my Instagram which was June 4, 2017. I also posted about three photos a day which was super tiring and an unrealistic expectation of myself. Now I try to post one photo a day and sometimes two. Either way, I don’t want it all to be revolving around the same shoot because I don’t want to annoy followers with the same kind of photos over and over again.

Lastly, the rain nourished everything around it in a way that no human simply can’t do by themselves. This taught me that I am going to need help from others if I really want my fashion endeavor to be a success. I am a very independent person and I hate asking for help, but I need it. I can only take so many good photos of myself, by myself. It helps when someone can take your photo. Also, I cant be the only follower to my fashion account and expect people to get tips and outfit inspiration. I am seriously nothing without any of my followers so I will end this blog by telling you all thank you again for becoming a part of my fashion family and following my Instagram account or blog right here on WordPress. Your support means everything to me and I always try to be as interactive with you all as much as possible, so don’t be a stranger, say hi and comment once in a while on here or on my Instagram. I love hearing from you all.

Think about what it is you really want and just go for it! But remember to stay stylish while you are out there working for what you want!

Staystylish

What Kind of Shopper Are You?

Did you see my photo on Instagram this morning? It was pretty ridiculous right? If you have no clue what I am talking about, you need to go take a look!

I get so anxious for online orders to arrive to my house. I feel like it takes forever and that alone drives me crazy! I know I could pay extra for quicker shipping, but that is about $20 or more automatically added to the overall total. No thank you.

Two things came in the mail for me yesterday. One was the black pants I have been needing from Fashion Nova and the other was a romper from a new store I hadn’t ever purchased from before called The Impeccable Pig. Interesting name right? I am going to do a different blog where I tell you guys all about that.

Fashion Nova gave me a 30% off coupon for my next purchase. So instead of waiting…I bought a top last night and am finding myself back on waiting for something to come in the mail!

A traditional shopper who prefers to go to the mall and have instant gratification of physically having an item in their hands is totally understandable. In fact, I still consider myself a traditional shopper over an online shopper. I never really trust size charts and returns are always such a hassle and a big disappointment when it is a final sale and there’s nothing you can do about it.

Are you guys an online shopper or are you more of a traditional shopper that goes to malls and stores to buy your items?