Deed of the Week: Stop Making Excuses

Halfway through the semester and I am already pretty exhausted! I went out of my way to catch up on homework and school work so I could dedicate this weekend to working on getting some videos on YouTube up. I mentioned in a previous post that I am trying to learn how to video edit and film a little bit more because I want to branch out to YouTube. I figured that this would be the best time of the year to start a channel because of Halloween. This holiday gives me an opportunity to show my creative side with costumes and makeup so I figured, why not?!

I am going to hopefully release a costume video tomorrow and then a different one on Wednesday. This week’s characters are both Disney characters, one is a male character and the other is a female. I think you guys will know who the female character is if you are following me on Instagram. I am eager to show you guys what I have been working on and I hope you will all like what you see.

YouTube is one of those things that I thought would be interesting to do so I stopped making excuses and decided to just go for it. I want you to challenge yourself to set aside some time and think about something that you have always wanted to do, yet find yourself making excuses. Figure out what is preventing you and ignore those excuses and just go for it! If you needed some encouragement to get out and do something, this is it. What is something that you have always wanted to do? Take the first step this week and see how far it takes you and just keep going!

if you’ve seen the Bernie Mac show, you will remember when Jordan said the greatest simile which is, “Excuses are just like butts, everyone’s got one but they all stink!”

Stay stylish!

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More Hurricanes

If you have watched the news in the past few days, you will know that our Carribean residents, Cuba, Puerto Rico, and Florida are all going to be hit pretty badly with hurricane Irma. Whether or not you think you’re going to be effected by this, it is still important that we as human beings come together and try our best to help each other out. Not too long ago hurricane Harvey hit south Texas and Houston was hit pretty bad. It takes a strong community to help out in times of need, especially when it comes to the aftermath of everything.

I have been dreaming and consumed by thoughts of hurricanes for a while now and not only is it stressing me out, it makes me remember the people in Houston, TX who lost everything and the people in hurricane Irma’s path who may also lose everything. As of right now, I am thinking about people I know who live in Florida and are probably evacuating as I write this blog. I really cannot imagine the feeling of having to pack my things and go. Knowing that my home is going to have to stay and I may not ever see it again. Gas and water are also running very low in Florida. Some people are going to stay in the state and protect themselves the best that they can. The Home Depot that was filmed on the news in Florida showed tons of people buying wood and nails to put over their doors and windows. I couldn’t stop thinking of their frantic faces.

I do not mean to bum anyone out, but chances are if you’re reading this, you probably do not have to be one of the people who are evacuating or going through the aftermath of a natural disaster. I am so grateful to be alive and healthy and to have all my stuff and my normal day-to-day life. Despite having a hard time waking up this morning and going through work and school, I am so grateful that my day ahead of me is what it originally set out to be versus finding myself in a place where I am not sure about anything.

No mater what you believe in, pray and send some great vibes to those who may need it. Remember that whatever you’re going through could always be way worse than what it is and focus more on the great things you have. Not the materialistic things, but rather the things that you cannot buy and be incredibly thankful that you are in a good place.

Be thankful and never take anything for granted.

Houston…They Have Some Problems, But You Can Help!

My heart is heavy for anyone who has been effected by Hurricane Harvey. I have mentioned this storm briefly in some of my previous posts, but this was before I saw the extent of Harvey’s destructive power. Many news stations have been constantly giving out information and footage of the aftermath that this storm caused in Houston, TX and I cannot imagine what my fellow Texans who have been hit hard by this storm are going through. Here in San Antonio, we had a lot of shelters open to those who were coming from Corpus. We also had fear from looking at the radar where the storm looked like it could be right over us any minute.

As you can see I am not going to talk about what I wore for my first day of school, but about how we can help those who were effected by Harvey. Not too long ago, I celebrated my cousin’s birthday on the 19th of this month and reunited with a family friend who is now in the Coast Guard. I bring this up because if any friends, family or yourself are in danger from this storm you can call the coast guard at any of the phone numbers below:

  • (281) 464-4851
  • (281) 464-4852
  • (281) 464-4853
  • (281) 464-4854
  • (281) 464-4855

Rescuers are asking for your cooperation in order to better help as many people as possible and even save lives. Emergency officials need more boats to help put people and pets in from their flooded houses and into safety. Boats, trucks and helicopters have all been used to free people from at least waist deep water. We can still help from home by making donations. Financial donations are needed in order to provide immediate aid to all those who may need it right now.

If you are able to donate financially, please visit Red Cross’s website:

https://www.redcross.org/donate/hurricane-harvey

You can also make a $10 donation straight from your phone if you text HARVEY to 90999

As soon as I find out more information about donating items such as clothing, electronics and household items, I will be sure to let you all know.

I am going to end my blog here. Please do not feel bad if you are not able to help out financially. Just remember to never take anything that you have for granted because it could be taken away in a second.

Be thankful, lend a helping hand, and stay stylish.

 

 

 

 

How To Get Over A Bad Day

Do any of you guys who drive feel that you have no sense of direction even with a GPS?

I personally have gotten better at finding me way around town ever since I started dating my boyfriend, but before he came into the picture, I only drove to work and school and occasionally to a friend’s house.

I will cut to the chase here for today’s blog topic and say that this has nothing to really do with fashion, but with life lessons and family.

As you guys know, back to school time is approaching everyone (or maybe it already has for you!) so a tradition in my family is to have dinner before the semester starts at a nice restaurant. My mom and I were dressed up in some of our favorite dresses and my dad wore a nice shirt, pants and some new dress shoes he just got. The three of us made our way out and told my older brother to meet us at the restaurant once he clocked out of work. We went to SaltGrass Steak House and ordered an appetizer. We were hoping my brother would be arriving any minute.

Time passed and it was time to place our orders so we did, including my brother’s order. Any minute now, he should be walking through that door.

More time passed when I decided to GPS on my phone how long it would take to get from my brother’s work to the restaurant. 10 minutes.

I saw that there was a red section on the highway so my family assumed that maybe my brother was just stuck in traffic. Then my mom’s phone lit up. My brother was calling so my mom answered. She started to ask where he was. She then hands the phone to my dad who grabs the phone and gets up from his seat. He makes his way outside the restaurant where it was quieter, leaving my mom and I at the table by ourselves. The food arrives before my dad does.

We wait more, not touching our food until my dad comes back. He comes back to the table looking flustered and says to my mom, “I don’t know where he’s at.”

My mom worriedly looks at my dad as he continues to explain that he went to the wrong location and continued to go back on the highway, but doesn’t recognize where he is at. My dad had just told my brother to go back on the highway, take the next exit, pull over and then call us back to better explain where he was. We continued to eat dinner and then my mom’s phone lit up again. My dad picks up and makes his way back outside, leaving my mom and I alone once again.

My mom tells me that she is worried that my dad was going to be super upset with my brother, and to be honest with you, even though I acted cool in front of my mom, I was worried about that too. My dad is gone even longer this time. My mom gets up to use the restroom and I am sitting alone at the table thinking to myself how this was supposed to be a nice dinner. A fun dinner. A nice and fun dinner with my family. That’s all I wanted.

My mom comes back from the restroom and looks even more worried and uncomfortable as she realizes that my dad still isn’t back yet.

My mom and I talk to each other in order to somewhat comfort each other when my dad finally gets back. He sits back down and exhales sharply and tells my mom, “I am just besides myself right now.” He goes on to vent about how he really doesn’t know how he could help my brother if my brother doesn’t know where he’s at or give him any full street name or anything. He goes on to tell us that he told my brother to GPS his way home the best he can and to not worry about the restaurant. We were almost done eating anyway.

Not having my brother for dinner wasn’t even the worst part. It was the uncomfortable yelling that my dad gave to my brother once he got home. So that brings me back here right now as I type. I am still in my dress. Makeup on, shoes on, hair done and everything, but my smile has disappeared. I hate when my dad gets after me, but I hate it most when he gets after my brother.

My Saturday was going so great up until this point, but a bad day does not mean a bad life. Here are my best tips on how to get over a bad day.

  1. Give yourself some privacy and just let it all out. Write it down, call a friend and vent, take a shower and cry in it, sing, dance, do exercise…do whatever it personally takes for you to get that negative energy out.
  2. Treat yourself to an at home spa. You can give yourself a pedicure, put a refreshing face mask on, prepare a warm bubble bath and relax, listen to music etc…
  3. Tell yourself that a bad day does not mean that you have a bad life. One thing I personally do is listen to motivational speeches on YouTube. It is really inspiring. You should try it 🙂
  4. Since you are already on YouTube, look up some funny videos! Kitten and Puppy videos are the best medicine. If you have Instagram, you can also find some cute videos on there. If animals aren’t your thing, look up something that is! Whether it is hair and makeup, vlogs, music videos, workout videos, documentaries, you name it!

I really hope these four tips help you guys get over a bad day. If there is something you do in order to get over a bad day that I may not have mentioned, but works for you, feel free to comment below! That is going to be it for today’s blog, but I want you all to know that I am feeling better already and I have only done step 1 out of 4 🙂 Thank you for reading and turn your frown upside down. Smiles never go out of style.

Stay stylish everyone.

Building My Core & Confidence

You guys, I just finished a 10 minute workout video from YouTube fitness trainer Cassey Ho on her channel Blogilates. She released a video about a week ago titled, ‘5 Ways to Build your Core & Confidence’ and I have to admit that it was the hardest ab workout I have done.

I am talking about this today because I am the type of person who gains a little bit of weight and just doesn’t like the way that my clothes look on me anymore. Before I continue, please know that I am not body shaming or trying to preach on how we all have to live a certain healthy lifestyle. I am here to talk to you guys like the very honest person I am and a person who has real thoughts and feelings.

Earlier this year my mom sat down and talked to me and pretty much told me that she noticed that I was gaining weight. She told me this right when I was eating some leftover Chinese food from the night before. Hearing her tell me that she has notice weight gain in me, made me lose my appetite for my leftover food. I was speechless. I was hurt. I couldn’t believe what I was hearing from my mom. Despite how shitty I felt inside, my poker face remained while in my mother’s presence. But once I got in my room, I started trying on some clothes in my closet. Unfortunately my mom was right. I did gain some weight. All the clothes that used to make me feel cute and stylish, just didn’t sit right on my body. They were too tight. They wouldn’t zip up. I was heartbroken.

To make my wake up call even more devastating, I snuck into my mom’s room and weighed myself. I’ll never forget it. I weighed 144 pounds.

I remember venting to my boyfriend about this and I’m not going to lie, I told him that I weighed in at 134 pounds because I did not want to hear the words coming out of my mouth that I was only six pounds away from 150 pounds. I am a 5 ft. 2 in. girl who has weighed 120 the most so when I saw that I had gained almost 25 pounds, my heart ached and my mind was just all over the place.

My fitness journey began shortly after my birthday back in January and although I have not stepped back on the scale, I am pleased to say that half the clothes that didn’t fit me a few months ago, are back to fitting me like they used to. I was using my resources such as the gym at my work and even the gym at my school. I was making myself lean meals and drinking lots of water. Any other type of beverage was for Saturday only.

My mom and I have not talked about my weight since, and as much as it really hurt me to hear my own mother tell me that I was gaining weight, it’s what I needed in order to have this healthy change in myself. So that ties me back into the video I mentioned earlier. Starting out Blogilates videos was very hard in the beginning. Even though they were only 5 or 10 minutes, I always found myself getting frustrated and wanting to give up. It seemed like I would take one step forward and two steps back, but if you are too afraid to fail, you will never succeed. 

Another thing that I started doing this year is lifting weights. Before I had no upper body strength and was getting tired lifting 3 pound weights, but now I lift 8 pounds. It may not seem like a big difference, but it is a healthy difference for me and my body. My stomach is getting flatter. My arms have gotten firmer. My running has remained steady and great for my heart. But most importantly, my confidence has escalated with the help of living a healthier lifestyle and my fashion endeavor.

I want women of all ages to know that they can find their strength when they hit rock bottom. I want women to know that they can jump back into being a healthier version of themselves whether it is physically, mentally, spiritually or any other way. I want women to not apologize for putting themselves first and wanting to be their own kind of Wonder Woman. If you really want something, you have to begin some type of journey for yourself.

I want to know what your dreams are and what you have done to reach them. And if you haven’t began your journey to your goals, what is holding you back?

Think about what it is you want out of your life and how you can become the best version of  yourself.

Build your core. Build your confidence. Stay Stylish.

What The Rain Told Me

Hello everyone! As you know from yesterday’s post, it was raining here in my hometown. I left out some details of the significance of the rainy weather so let me explain by saying this first, it stormed so badly in my area that I was only at work for an hour before everyone was sent home due to a bug power outage. The rain came in with a bang and caused flooding, many accidents, power outages, stalled cars, lightning shows, gusts of raging wind and panic to a lot of people who were out and about or watching the news at home. Eventually the rain did stop in the evening, but man was it scary Monday morning.

I never saw this storm coming. Never heard form anywhere that there was a chance of rain or anything like that so I was definitely taken off guard. Secondly, the rain washed away a lot of filth. The plants are standing tall and bright now and the streets in the neighborhoods look brand new. Whatever bird poop was on my car prior to the storm was long gone and when the sun finally peeked out, it was like a different place than before. This got me thinking of my how much my soul could use a bit of cleansing.

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I had school, work, my fashion endeavor, my fitness journey and social life all over the place and organization was non-existent. I am going to really try to be more consistent and to be honest, I really enjoy blogging at night before bed because it reminds me of how I used to write in my diary, but once school starts, I am not sure if anyone is going to stay up to read my blog. I can still post in the evening, but it would probably be at 9 p.m. which I believe is a respectable hour.

Speaking of consistency, I want to transform my Instagram into a set theme or pattern instead of posting random things all the time. I have been YouTubing videos on how to edit photos, how to pose, how to set a theme, how to view grids and all sorts of things. I am able to dive deeper into this now that I finished my summer courses! I took two classes and gave it my best shot and thankfully came out with passing grades in both classes. I owe it to myself these next two weeks to put myself first now and focus wholeheartedly on my blog and on my Instagram and of course taking some fashion photos for you all.

So how does any of this relate to the rain we had over here?

Well for starters, the rain was pretty scary at first and things got pretty ugly. I felt this way when I started this blog and my Instagram account. I found myself doing the first photo shoot and felt kinda silly posing in a park. I honestly felt overwhelmed and tired afterwards. Overwhelmed and tired were feelings that I got know a bit too much this summer. Now that I do not have to worry about going to school, some weight has been taken off my shoulders.

Secondly, the rain went all out at first and flooded everything, but after a while it was more steady. This is how I feel about the way my Instagram account is. I uploaded about four photos the first day I created my Instagram which was June 4, 2017. I also posted about three photos a day which was super tiring and an unrealistic expectation of myself. Now I try to post one photo a day and sometimes two. Either way, I don’t want it all to be revolving around the same shoot because I don’t want to annoy followers with the same kind of photos over and over again.

Lastly, the rain nourished everything around it in a way that no human simply can’t do by themselves. This taught me that I am going to need help from others if I really want my fashion endeavor to be a success. I am a very independent person and I hate asking for help, but I need it. I can only take so many good photos of myself, by myself. It helps when someone can take your photo. Also, I cant be the only follower to my fashion account and expect people to get tips and outfit inspiration. I am seriously nothing without any of my followers so I will end this blog by telling you all thank you again for becoming a part of my fashion family and following my Instagram account or blog right here on WordPress. Your support means everything to me and I always try to be as interactive with you all as much as possible, so don’t be a stranger, say hi and comment once in a while on here or on my Instagram. I love hearing from you all.

Think about what it is you really want and just go for it! But remember to stay stylish while you are out there working for what you want!

Staystylish

Controversial Jewelry?

Hello everyone, did you guys have a great day?

I am exhausted, but am not allowing myself to go to bed without talking to you all first. As I sit here on my bed and begin to unwind, I cannot help but play my day in my head. I woke up bright and early and went to work at 8 a.m. and did the best I could. When not working part-time, my full-time student mode kicks in. I have never done so much work in one day, but like all students, I needed some help so I went to the writing lab.

I went into the lab hoping to find a document on how to cite in APA format. I know Owl Purdue is helpful, but what is most helpful to me is face-to-face interaction. They did not have the resource guide I was looking for, but I decided to stay in the lab to double check grades and due dates.

As I was standing in front of a computer to sign in, a random student decided to make a comment on my cross necklace I was wearing and say, “Jesus was not crucified on a diamond cross.”

I heard the record scratch sound in my head.

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I’m not going to lie and say that I took this like a grain of salt, it really did bother me. I looked at her feeling sheepish inside, but replied boldly and confidently, “I know Honey. Now get back to work.”

I thought about this the rest of my day. Why did this bother me so much?

Here’s the thing, I really do not care what type of religion anyone practices or if they choose not to at all. I just want people to walk out their doors with good intentions. If I want to wear a necklace that has a cross on it, I believe I should. After this happened, I thought a lot about how many people may be hesitant to express their beliefs because we all know that not everyone will agree with us.

All I want to say is that I hope me wearing a cross necklace and believing in God does not change anyone’s feelings about me. I have always had my faith to get me through the most troubling and harsh times and most definitely the most stressful. Please do not hate me for believing in God, because I am very appreciative of every single on of you who come to my blog and read what I write. It seriously means the world to me.

Remember to stay strong, and of course, stay stylish! I love you all.