In The Eyes Of The Beholder

I often write about fashion on here. I love the fact that when a person takes the time to dress up or try a new style that they begin to have a positive change in their confidence and even their attitude. I love seeing the way that fashion is used to help people express themselves and the fact that it helps them stand taller when they walk from down the hall to down the streets. These are the reasons why fashion and style are so important to me. It is not a status thing. It is not a materialistic thing or a “just for fun” thing, but so much more than that.

My heart breaks a little when someone says that fashion isn’t important or even necessary is one’s life, because I couldn’t disagree more.

Before starting my fashion account on Instagram or blogging on here, I was told by many people that they loved how I dressed. It would make my day to know that the time and effort I put into my wardrobe before I walked out was not just a pigment of my imagination. I know this seems very arrogant of me, but isn’t it nice when someone gives you a compliment?

Isn’t it even nicer when the person that gives you a compliment is not solely just people who are online or through social media?

Let me tell you something Kenny, it’s pretty flattering and you never quite forget it.

The other day when I was taking some pictures of the work outfits I showed you guys the other day, a lady who was walking her two dogs passed by and told me that I looked beautiful. She didn’t specify any one particular item on my outfit but she did analyze my outfit head to toe behind her big sunglasses. The outfit she saw was the one with the leopard dress. If I had to pick one outfit that I was a little hesitant to wear at first, it was the one with this dress. However, this outfit is the one that has received the most compliments and has started the most conversations.

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When we receive compliments from others, there can sometimes be an initial reaction of surprise because what we may have walked out the door feeling super casual or kicking ourselves in the butt for forgetting to wear that necklace or wake up earlier to fix our hair and so forth, but what we see is not going to be what other people will see. It’s often in the eyes of the beholder that they are able to see something positive in others. When I see the image above of myself, the first thing I saw was how my stomach folds. I have rolls guys. Did you notice that when you saw this photo?

Probably not, but now I just pointed it out to you.

The point is, we make too big of an issue over very small and unimportant things. Would you have thought that because of the way my stomach looked, I almost didn’t post this photo? My mind changed when I shifted my focus on my legs instead. I have pretty nice legs thanks to running all those miles!

A few people from my Instagram family on my fashion account have reached out to me with some questions on fashion and other tips. Some of them were friends from high school who I have not seen in about three years already. Since I still consider myself very amateur at blogging and having a fashion account on Instagram, I can honestly say that I was able to reach success in a matter of two months. My success is not determined by how many followers I have on here or over there on Instagram, but rather when I know that others view me credible enough to ask me fashion, style and shopping questions. Do not get me wrong, it is nice seeing my Instagram and fashion blog family grow, but the number of followers are not what determine my success. People are welcome to come and go as they please as long as they stay kind to one another while they remain here. That is all I ask.

Through the eyes of others, I have learned that I actually dress pretty well! Through the eyes of others, I have learned that they do not see my imperfections. Through the eyes of others, I learned that fashion is what has made me stand out from the crowd.

I hope you all have a great start to your weekend and remember to stay stylish!

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What The Rain Told Me

Hello everyone! As you know from yesterday’s post, it was raining here in my hometown. I left out some details of the significance of the rainy weather so let me explain by saying this first, it stormed so badly in my area that I was only at work for an hour before everyone was sent home due to a bug power outage. The rain came in with a bang and caused flooding, many accidents, power outages, stalled cars, lightning shows, gusts of raging wind and panic to a lot of people who were out and about or watching the news at home. Eventually the rain did stop in the evening, but man was it scary Monday morning.

I never saw this storm coming. Never heard form anywhere that there was a chance of rain or anything like that so I was definitely taken off guard. Secondly, the rain washed away a lot of filth. The plants are standing tall and bright now and the streets in the neighborhoods look brand new. Whatever bird poop was on my car prior to the storm was long gone and when the sun finally peeked out, it was like a different place than before. This got me thinking of my how much my soul could use a bit of cleansing.

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I had school, work, my fashion endeavor, my fitness journey and social life all over the place and organization was non-existent. I am going to really try to be more consistent and to be honest, I really enjoy blogging at night before bed because it reminds me of how I used to write in my diary, but once school starts, I am not sure if anyone is going to stay up to read my blog. I can still post in the evening, but it would probably be at 9 p.m. which I believe is a respectable hour.

Speaking of consistency, I want to transform my Instagram into a set theme or pattern instead of posting random things all the time. I have been YouTubing videos on how to edit photos, how to pose, how to set a theme, how to view grids and all sorts of things. I am able to dive deeper into this now that I finished my summer courses! I took two classes and gave it my best shot and thankfully came out with passing grades in both classes. I owe it to myself these next two weeks to put myself first now and focus wholeheartedly on my blog and on my Instagram and of course taking some fashion photos for you all.

So how does any of this relate to the rain we had over here?

Well for starters, the rain was pretty scary at first and things got pretty ugly. I felt this way when I started this blog and my Instagram account. I found myself doing the first photo shoot and felt kinda silly posing in a park. I honestly felt overwhelmed and tired afterwards. Overwhelmed and tired were feelings that I got know a bit too much this summer. Now that I do not have to worry about going to school, some weight has been taken off my shoulders.

Secondly, the rain went all out at first and flooded everything, but after a while it was more steady. This is how I feel about the way my Instagram account is. I uploaded about four photos the first day I created my Instagram which was June 4, 2017. I also posted about three photos a day which was super tiring and an unrealistic expectation of myself. Now I try to post one photo a day and sometimes two. Either way, I don’t want it all to be revolving around the same shoot because I don’t want to annoy followers with the same kind of photos over and over again.

Lastly, the rain nourished everything around it in a way that no human simply can’t do by themselves. This taught me that I am going to need help from others if I really want my fashion endeavor to be a success. I am a very independent person and I hate asking for help, but I need it. I can only take so many good photos of myself, by myself. It helps when someone can take your photo. Also, I cant be the only follower to my fashion account and expect people to get tips and outfit inspiration. I am seriously nothing without any of my followers so I will end this blog by telling you all thank you again for becoming a part of my fashion family and following my Instagram account or blog right here on WordPress. Your support means everything to me and I always try to be as interactive with you all as much as possible, so don’t be a stranger, say hi and comment once in a while on here or on my Instagram. I love hearing from you all.

Think about what it is you really want and just go for it! But remember to stay stylish while you are out there working for what you want!

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Christmas (Shopping) In July

As of today we are five months away from Christmas day. Although I used to believe that Christmas in July was nonsense, I am going to try doing my shopping little by little as the second half of the year progresses so I don’t find myself stressing out over last minute shopping or running low on funds. I know for some of you, if may be way too early to be thinking about Christmas, but this year I would like to be able to enjoy the holidays instead of stressing out about what gift I am going to give so-and-so.

Correct me if I am wrong, but do you ever feel that the amount of stress prior and sometimes during and after the holidays lasts way longer than the holiday itself? In my book, it is not worth the stress for one day. I am not a holiday hater by no means, don’t get me wrong. I am very family oriented and I do enjoy seeing relatives and friends from out of town, but ohhhh-emmmm-geeeeeee do I stress out when certain relatives have grudges against one another or friends cancel on plans last minute or the gift doesn’t fit or show up on time or all the kids that go psycho with their toys and break something. Oh, and do not get me started with feeling rushed because you are trying to make time for everyone important in your life. I feel a bit overwhelmed just reading this.

Anyways, I am writing this blog today in hopes that I can help you save some stress by starting your shopping in advance. If you see something at the store today and think someone you know will like it, buy it! Who says you have to wait until December to start thinking about these things? Here is my list of the most important people to shop for in my life…

  • Mom- Do I really need to explain why?
  • Dad- If I buy something for one parent, I cannot forget the other!
  • Brother- He’s not the stereotypical older brother you see in TV shows. I don’t deserve how great he is to me as a sister.
  • Best Friend- She is the closest thing I have to a sister. We’ve been friends for 10 years already now!
  • My boyfriend- He’s the love of my life!
  • Cats- I am a crazy cat lady and pets are part of the family too!

I will have to save the most money for these people in my life. Even though they do not ask me for much, I still want to give them something they really want or need.

The second list is composed of couples around my age who are either my cousins or friends. They are….

  • My cousin Javier and his girlfriend Miranda- they’ve been together for a long time and I think I really know what their interests are.
  • My friends Jaqui and her boyfriend- I actually still have their gift from last year. It was a cute house to put in their rat’s cage. I think I will include something else with it for them this year.
  • The wedded couple! – This will be their first Christmas as husband and wife! I got to make the gift count.
  • My YouTuber and fashion-forward friend Nikole and her boyfriend Bryan- I met them through my boyfriend, and I know they looked after him throughout the years before I entered his life. I really owe them.

Although there may be more people that will enter my life that I may want to give them something, these are the people who are on my list as of right now. I see my best friend today and although I won’t be able to give her a gift this year, I really hope I can find an awesome Christmas gift to make up for it!

Consider getting a head start in gift shopping to avoid stressing out later. While everyone is frantically searching in stores, you can be occupied enjoying the atmosphere of the holidays and take the time to admire it in its beauty. Even if you do not celebrate Christmas, think of all the things you’d rather be doing during the holidays instead of shopping for everyone else except yourself!

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As always, have a great day and stay stylish!

Chester Bennington…You Will Be Missed

Hello everyone,

Today’s blog is about a musician that helped shape my brother’s and my childhood. Chester Bennington, front man of Linkin Park, songwriter and actor, has passed away today, July 20, 2017. I heard about the news from my boyfriend who also loves music as much as I do. We are both speechless to the breaking news and cannot process any of this information right now.

For today’s post I want to take a moment to send my condolences to Chester Bennington’s family, friends and fans who also stopped dead in their tracks the second they heard this. Hybrid Theory and Meteora were albums that I would play in my CD player, long before I had my first iPod Nano. Their album Minutes to Midnight which came out in 2007, had their song ‘What I’ve Done’ in the very first Transformers movie and when I first listened to it I got the chills because Chester Bennington’s voice was so stunning. I saw that movie the summer right before I started middle school and found myself listening to Linkin Park a lot again.

I also love the fact that Chester did a song in the Queen of the Damned soundtrack which is named ‘System’ and is my personal favorite song from that CD. He also did some acting and I can remember him clearly in one of the Saw movies. He really seemed like a down to earth guy and I knew I should’ve seen them in concert the last time that Linkin Park came to my hometown. If any of you guys have ever seen them in concert, let me know in the comments below.

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Now on a more serious note…

Reports say that Chester was found dead in his home after committing suicide. Suicide is a serious issue that we need to constantly bring awareness to and take action in order to prevent it from happening. Depression is a real deal. I have never suffered through depression, but I have a lot of friends who have. I admit that I have been naive about depression because I didn’t understand it nor could I relate to it. But instead of blowing my friends off because they were depressed, I offered my time and prayers to whatever they had to say and just tried to be a good friend to them.

This leads me to inform you guys that I never had a solution for anyone’s problems, but I know that sometimes what people need is to just talk to somebody. Anybody. Find someone to talk to because I know for a fact that we are not alone in this world and there are good people out there who are here to help you and may be just a call away.

For those of you who are like me and have not personally dealt with depression, remember to be kind. Consider the fact that maybe the person next to you may be having a bad day or that there are many people out there who are wearing a facade because they do not know how to cope with whatever they are going through. We do not know people’s lives and people do not know our own lives.

Here is the national Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-8255

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Guilty Pleasures

As you all know, I attended my friend’s wedding the other day. It was a beautiful day. Not only did I witness the couple become one, I also reunited with a lot of my friends who I have not seen since I transferred to a university. I was glad to see that my friends were all doing well and just as happy as I was to see the bride and groom getting married.

So why did I title this post guilty pleasure?

Because my guilty pleasure is wedding related. Guys, I love watching the show, ‘Say Yes to the Dress’ and what better time to share that with you guys than now?!

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My great friend wore this beautiful gown that she got from David’s Bridal. It is not over-the-top, but undeniably beautiful on her. The dress had a three quarter sleeve with lace detail and mesh neckline versus bare shoulders. The dress featured a thin jewel piece ribbon in front of her waist and a straight, long skirt with a longer cut in the back. She wore the dress with the long piece in church and was able to remove it for the dance later on.

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The veil was attached to the bride’s floral crown that she made herself! My friends are very into anything Dia de los Muertos inspired, so this floral crown was a nice touch for her big day. Their wedding cake definitely gives off this impression and went well with their wedding theme.20170716_125841.jpg

I love dresses in general, but wedding dresses are just very stunning and there is so many styles out there that I think are very beautiful and can make any woman out there believe that she is truly gorgeous and special. Although I love watching this show, I want you all to understand that I am only into it for the dresses. I hate the drama the bride’s friends and family bring and seeing the poor bride trying to please everyone. The dresses are gorgeous and I love that incredible moment when the bride realizes that she has found her perfect dress.  My friends are a beautiful married couple and are off to bigger and better things together.

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I want to wish my friends a great honeymoon and a wonderful marriage

God bless you both!

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It is that weird time in life where you notice that you and your friends are all going in different directions…

Some friends are independent with full time jobs, some have children, some have moved to a different state, some are in college, some still live with their parents (myself included), some are busy constantly working, some are busy constantly partying, and no joke- some may have even passed away.

I have reached this weird time in my life where my life and my friend’s lives begin to go off in very different directions. We are no longer going through the same things at the same time like we did in high school. It’s funny. It’s crazy. It’s all just so very weird. Despite what may be happening, there is something that stops you in your tracks unlike anything else when you learn that one of your friends is getting married.

The couple had announced their engagement about a year ago. They will be getting married this week. Yes, a year has gone by already! About two weeks ago I attended the Bachelorette party. The one and only Bachelorette party I had ever attended. I went to the nearest Target and bought her lingerie of course! You’re welcome Johnny.

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I participated in all the games, one included creating a wedding gown out of toilet paper. I wish the gown I had created would’ve won!

The jeopardy game was my favorite. The three categories were The Bride, The Groom and The Couple. I knew most of the answers for the most part, but everyone else just seemed to shout louder. It was a lovely experience overall. There was food, decorations, gift bags, lots of underwear for the bride to be, and friends and family. But now that the wedding is THIS week, things are just becoming super real.

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I am talking about this today because marriage is a real game changer. Married or not, I still love my friends all the same. I am excited to witness my friends become one this week. I know that this event is significant to my boyfriend as well. The groom is his best friend. I found a dress from the thrift store for $5 that I will be wearing for the wedding. Since my boyfriend is a groomsmen who will be wearing a tux and a gold tie, I decided to put some gold into my own outfit to match him. This photo doesn’t do this dress justice, but I swear there are some gold undertones in it. I have my golden ‘Sealed With A Kiss’ gold shoes from Necessary Clothing that I will be wearing. Now I just need that golden necklace!

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Happy 4th of July!

Independence Day. How am I going to spend it?

Hello everyone. I just woke up and am at the part of my day when I think about what my day is going to be like more or less. Today is July 4th, Independence Day here in America and I am thankful for those who fought for this country back in 1776. I am wearing red, white and blue in order to be festive and will spend the day with my family.

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My day consist of not having to be in the office today. Yay! Right now I am probably going to sit on the couch with my coffee inside my grumpy cat mug and just enjoy the sunrise. Then I am going to do my morning workout followed by some chores.

As for the more fun part of my day, my family and I are going to go to the mall! YAY AGAIN! Then I will head over to my grandparents house for some bar-b-que and most likely spend the rest of my day there. My family recently got rid of our old grill that we used for many cookouts in the past, so we are on the shopping hunt for a new one.

As for the fireworks, you are all going to think I am so lame, but I really just do not feel like making my way through overcrowded parks and staying up super late (for those of you who do not know, summer time in Texas does not get dark until 10 pm.) just for a firework show that barely lasts 20 minutes. The only time I get my fix for fireworks on News Year’s anyways.

I am keeping this blog short and simple today. If you would like to see more of my fashion and photos, please follow my Instagram @alamocitysara

How will you guys be spending your day today? I really want to know!