I left my house at 7:30 a.m. and came back home almost 12 hours later. I kept reflecting on my day and the more I thought of it, the more defeated I realized I felt. How could I wake up feeling so confident, yet feel so down within the same day? Many of you know that a lot can happen in a day. A LOT.
I am a whole lot better now because I realized that there is no use crying over spilled milk and that my setbacks will never ever, overpower my comebacks. Aside from the first 5 things I do to recover that you saw in my video, here are the other 5 ways to make your comeback stronger than any of your set backs. These are different than the first 5 because it now involves others rather than just yourself.
6. Take ownership of your mistake, but keep your dignity.
Oh man. That already sounds hard, but accidents happen! Sometimes our own setbacks happen because we mess up on our end. Maybe we missed a deadline or maybe we accidentally did or said something we shouldn’t have. Whatever happened, if you know you were in the wrong, take a deep breath and take ownership of your mistake. Address it, apologize, whatever it was…do not let pride prevent you from making things right. However, keep your dignity! Do not cry, beg or blame. Remain professional. You’re a sophisticated individual who is better than making a scene like a child. This is probably the hardest step out of the 5, but it is the first thing you need to do in order for the others to work out.
7. Clear Things Out
I mean this in various ways. First off, GET ORGANIZED. Clean out that desk at work, your room, your car, your purse and even your backpack if you’re a student. Sometimes mess in itself can cause us to be overwhelmed so get organized! Keep what you need, and toss what you don’t need. Secondly and more importantly, communication. Clear out what you have been holding inside. Just say it. If there was a big misunderstanding, make it known so that it is prevented again in the future.
8. Ask For Help
If you’re anything like me, you dread asking others for help. Maybe it’s because you feel like you’re interrupting them, or maybe you feel like they’ll think you’re dumb for asking a certain question, but you need to free yourself from those thoughts. In this life, we are all here to learn. Take it upon yourself to seek knowledge. Everyone benefits in the end.
9. Don’t Be Close Minded
I know that the public can sometimes have rocky relationships with the media, but I want you to think of a journalist for a moment. Journalist often have to report stories and try their best to capture both sides of the story. A good journalist is able to do this fine, but a great journalist is able to do this in a way that both sides have a clear voice in the story and neither one of those voices is the journalist! What I’m saying is, to be neutral. Do not judge and pick sides, especially in the work place! Hear others out and try to understand them. This also ties into seeking knowledge. Know when to be a team player and when it’s best to remain neutral.
10. Get Involved.
Listen here, we can all say those four words, “I don’t have time,” but it’s a fact that we can always make time for things that need to get done. Like work, school, homework and all that serious stuff, but don’t forget about the things that make you happy! The things that you naturally gravitate towards. For me, it’s fashion blogging. If I had the “I don’t have time,” mentality, I would not be writing this and I would not be making YouTube videos or have my fashion account on Instagram. I also would have never gotten over my camera shyness! Or gotten the chance to meet interesting people and I know that I probably wouldn’t be anywhere near as happy right now. By doing what you love, you will find yourself getting involved in a community of like-minded individuals who will give you advice, support you and even be friends with! In the process, you may even learn more things about yourself.
Alrighty everyone, I hope that my video and blog motivate you on your own recovery process of going through a bad day. Just remember that your mistakes do not define who you are. Just like my statement in the beginning of my video says, you know who you are. Life is full of setbacks. There are going to be days where the world acts like it’s against you and nothing is going according to plan, but that shouldn’t leave you defeated forever. Life is hard, but that fact shouldn’t stop you from living it!
Keep going and stay stylish.