In The Eyes Of The Beholder

I often write about fashion on here. I love the fact that when a person takes the time to dress up or try a new style that they begin to have a positive change in their confidence and even their attitude. I love seeing the way that fashion is used to help people express themselves and the fact that it helps them stand taller when they walk from down the hall to down the streets. These are the reasons why fashion and style are so important to me. It is not a status thing. It is not a materialistic thing or a “just for fun” thing, but so much more than that.

My heart breaks a little when someone says that fashion isn’t important or even necessary is one’s life, because I couldn’t disagree more.

Before starting my fashion account on Instagram or blogging on here, I was told by many people that they loved how I dressed. It would make my day to know that the time and effort I put into my wardrobe before I walked out was not just a pigment of my imagination. I know this seems very arrogant of me, but isn’t it nice when someone gives you a compliment?

Isn’t it even nicer when the person that gives you a compliment is not solely just people who are online or through social media?

Let me tell you something Kenny, it’s pretty flattering and you never quite forget it.

The other day when I was taking some pictures of the work outfits I showed you guys the other day, a lady who was walking her two dogs passed by and told me that I looked beautiful. She didn’t specify any one particular item on my outfit but she did analyze my outfit head to toe behind her big sunglasses. The outfit she saw was the one with the leopard dress. If I had to pick one outfit that I was a little hesitant to wear at first, it was the one with this dress. However, this outfit is the one that has received the most compliments and has started the most conversations.

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When we receive compliments from others, there can sometimes be an initial reaction of surprise because what we may have walked out the door feeling super casual or kicking ourselves in the butt for forgetting to wear that necklace or wake up earlier to fix our hair and so forth, but what we see is not going to be what other people will see. It’s often in the eyes of the beholder that they are able to see something positive in others. When I see the image above of myself, the first thing I saw was how my stomach folds. I have rolls guys. Did you notice that when you saw this photo?

Probably not, but now I just pointed it out to you.

The point is, we make too big of an issue over very small and unimportant things. Would you have thought that because of the way my stomach looked, I almost didn’t post this photo? My mind changed when I shifted my focus on my legs instead. I have pretty nice legs thanks to running all those miles!

A few people from my Instagram family on my fashion account have reached out to me with some questions on fashion and other tips. Some of them were friends from high school who I have not seen in about three years already. Since I still consider myself very amateur at blogging and having a fashion account on Instagram, I can honestly say that I was able to reach success in a matter of two months. My success is not determined by how many followers I have on here or over there on Instagram, but rather when I know that others view me credible enough to ask me fashion, style and shopping questions. Do not get me wrong, it is nice seeing my Instagram and fashion blog family grow, but the number of followers are not what determine my success. People are welcome to come and go as they please as long as they stay kind to one another while they remain here. That is all I ask.

Through the eyes of others, I have learned that I actually dress pretty well! Through the eyes of others, I have learned that they do not see my imperfections. Through the eyes of others, I learned that fashion is what has made me stand out from the crowd.

I hope you all have a great start to your weekend and remember to stay stylish!

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