New Video & 2018 So Far

Hello everyone,

I am writing to you all today in a freezing office and with another cough drop in my mouth. Yesterday morning I woke up with the back of my head throbbing and found that to be very peculiar. I remember rising up from my bed to take a drink of water and realizing that my throat felt odd. I pretty much spent all day yesterday in bed and was probably asleep most of the time. The only productive thing that I did was edit my latest YouTube video which is now up on my channel. Originally I was going to do a voice over in this video, but with my voice sounding super ridiculous right now, I refrained from that idea and decided to put some music in the background instead.

I was originally going to continue my closet series with my skirts, but it’s been so cold  everywhere that I decided to do a scarf video instead! I wear all of my scarfs differently which you will see in this video. I feature all my scarfs and the different ways that I like to tie and wear them!

2018 has started off on a sick note, but I am trying not to let this prevent me from working on what I want to accomplish! I also want to thank anyone who has subscribed to my YouTube channel. I have 24 followers now! I can’t wait to see that family grow. I also want to thank all 72 of you that have subscribed to my blog and have allowed me to vent about things and gush about others! To anyone feeling sick since we are in flu season, I pray for you to get healthy soon. Keep washing your hands, cover your mouth when you cough and sneeze, stay hydrated, and call into work if you must! Get your rest and watch my latest YouTube video and be sure to check out my other videos as well and subscribe to my channel!

Stay Stylish!

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Friendship

Not too long ago, I was enrolled in an English Composition class my freshman year of college. It was a strange time for me since I was getting over a guy named…we’ll call him Jordan, who had completely went ghost on me. I was 18 years old and constantly asking myself what it was that I had done so wrong. I turned to writing. We had an assignment where we had to define a word of our choice and write an entire essay explaining our own personal definitions. I chose the word friendship.

During the time after Jordan had gone ghost on me, I was a confused wreck just going through the motions of Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday, and then Monday again. It was also a time where I found out who my friends really were. Friends are the people who are there for the good, the bad, and the ugly in your life and wow, was my life at its all time low around this time.

Let me not get too ahead of myself just yet and enlighten you with this fact, there’s a difference between being popular and just being a known misfit. I bring this up because I talked to the same two people every day in high school which are my best friends Briana and Marissa. These two are sisters to me. I was never given a sister biologically, but I am perfectly happy with the two that I sought out for myself.  Anyways, I remember texting Marissa about everything that was going on when things were good. I am not one that is open to expressing my feelings, but this was never an issue with my two sisters. I remember coming home one night and in the back of my mind and in my heart…I somehow knew that I was never going to see Jordan again.

Even though I had a feeling this was coming, it didn’t prepare me for the sense of forlorn that I was carrying and the wonders of what was so wrong with me that made Jordan ghost me. I was in a situation that I saw in movies and TV shows all the time and would think to myself that I was never going to be “that” girl. I couldn’t change the past, so with the help of my two best friends, I was able to get over the feeling of believing that I was not good enough. I was able to build trust in others again. I was able to build a stronger relationship with myself by loving and respecting myself more.

I look back at how my friends really came through for me when I went through this. Now-a-days, I have friends who are willing to open up to me about their situations and I may not have a solution for them, but I am always there to listen to them. Sometimes that’s all you really need. I value every single friend that I have and I firmly believe that there is a reason why I have crossed paths with each and every one of them. I will always love my friends more than they’ll ever know. I still have a small group of friends, but I would give my last breath for them all.

There really was no point of this blog being fashion related, but tonight I found myself laying in bed and thinking about all the faces that I enjoy seeing or the fact that my world just stops and all my attention goes to them when I see their name pop up on my phone. I think that it is important to remember our friends no matter where life seems to be taking us or whatever else is going on. I love being Alamo City Sara, but I will honestly be more than happy just being happy-go-lucky Sara without an h any day.

Have a great week everyone and do not allow yourself to be so caught up making a living that you forget to make a life! Stay Stylish 🙂

Change Is Good…Right?

I never pay close attention to horoscopes, but there is a weakness about Capricorns that I read about that said Capricorns always expect the worst. After this week I had a lot of set backs and I realize that I am on my way to some big changes in my life. First off, my laptop thought it would be cool to breakdown on me in the middle of midterms week. the battery is attached to the motherboard so it’s not like it is easily replaceable. I was pretty much told that I would have to get a new laptop. Some may find getting a new device exciting, but I loved my laptop. It’s been pretty hard to let it go. I am mentioning the laptop because this device is the only one that has my video editing software installed in it and because it is not working very well, I haven’t posted any videos on my new YouTube channel this week which I am pretty bummed out about.

Secondly, it was that dreadful time of the year for us college students, because I had to figure out what my Spring 2018 schedule was going to be like. I only have 7 more classes after this current semester and the classes are more concentrated and very limited. I arranged my school schedule the best way that I could, but it requires me to be in school all day Tuesdays and Thursdays. Being in school all day is not a big deal for me, but it is my employment that concerns me.

In the past, I have had to rearrange my school schedule in order to accomodate to my work schedule. Back then, I only needed Tuesdays off, and I was given trouble about it due to my work. So how is it going to be now that I need two days out of the week off? While I am grateful for my job, if my employers cannot give me the days off that I need, I will be forced to say good-bye to my current job and go back into searching for new opportunities.

I love the idea of branching into new opportunities and getting closer to working somewhere that is related to what I am going to school for, but I am fearful that my employers will let me go last minute and I will be jobless for a while before I find something. I even thought of internship opportunities, but as much as I would like for them to be paid internships, a lot of them are not. Beggars cannot be chosers, and I will not hesitate to take an unpaid internship for the experience and being able to put it on my resume. By this time next year, I will be taking my last few classes and I would want to be able to get all the experience that I possibly can.

There is a lot of uncertainty in my life right now, and at first, I really hated it. I hated it because just like my zodiac sign says, Capricorns have a weakness of expecting the worst. But now, I am starting to realize that change is a good thing, because here are the facts:

  • Technology breaks! They are machines and unpredictable. They are awesome when they do work, and what frustrates me (and probably a lot of people) is that we do not realize how much we rely on our devices until something happens to it. But worse things could happen. I could be dealing with something that is irreplaceable.
  • I love my job. God knows how convenient it was for me and how much it has taught me, but the truth is, I knew I was not going to stay there forever. I knew that eventually I would have to put in my two weeks and say my good-byes and thank yous, but searching for new employment is tough. Luckily us Capricorns have a strength of discipline, which will help me look for new employment if I need it.
  • Change will only begin to be good, when your attitude changes for the good.

This pretty much has been the reason why no videos were posted on my YouTube channel this week, but I will be back on YouTube soon! In the meantime I am going to just live and breathe through it all one day at a time.

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How To Get Over A Bad Day

Do any of you guys who drive feel that you have no sense of direction even with a GPS?

I personally have gotten better at finding me way around town ever since I started dating my boyfriend, but before he came into the picture, I only drove to work and school and occasionally to a friend’s house.

I will cut to the chase here for today’s blog topic and say that this has nothing to really do with fashion, but with life lessons and family.

As you guys know, back to school time is approaching everyone (or maybe it already has for you!) so a tradition in my family is to have dinner before the semester starts at a nice restaurant. My mom and I were dressed up in some of our favorite dresses and my dad wore a nice shirt, pants and some new dress shoes he just got. The three of us made our way out and told my older brother to meet us at the restaurant once he clocked out of work. We went to SaltGrass Steak House and ordered an appetizer. We were hoping my brother would be arriving any minute.

Time passed and it was time to place our orders so we did, including my brother’s order. Any minute now, he should be walking through that door.

More time passed when I decided to GPS on my phone how long it would take to get from my brother’s work to the restaurant. 10 minutes.

I saw that there was a red section on the highway so my family assumed that maybe my brother was just stuck in traffic. Then my mom’s phone lit up. My brother was calling so my mom answered. She started to ask where he was. She then hands the phone to my dad who grabs the phone and gets up from his seat. He makes his way outside the restaurant where it was quieter, leaving my mom and I at the table by ourselves. The food arrives before my dad does.

We wait more, not touching our food until my dad comes back. He comes back to the table looking flustered and says to my mom, “I don’t know where he’s at.”

My mom worriedly looks at my dad as he continues to explain that he went to the wrong location and continued to go back on the highway, but doesn’t recognize where he is at. My dad had just told my brother to go back on the highway, take the next exit, pull over and then call us back to better explain where he was. We continued to eat dinner and then my mom’s phone lit up again. My dad picks up and makes his way back outside, leaving my mom and I alone once again.

My mom tells me that she is worried that my dad was going to be super upset with my brother, and to be honest with you, even though I acted cool in front of my mom, I was worried about that too. My dad is gone even longer this time. My mom gets up to use the restroom and I am sitting alone at the table thinking to myself how this was supposed to be a nice dinner. A fun dinner. A nice and fun dinner with my family. That’s all I wanted.

My mom comes back from the restroom and looks even more worried and uncomfortable as she realizes that my dad still isn’t back yet.

My mom and I talk to each other in order to somewhat comfort each other when my dad finally gets back. He sits back down and exhales sharply and tells my mom, “I am just besides myself right now.” He goes on to vent about how he really doesn’t know how he could help my brother if my brother doesn’t know where he’s at or give him any full street name or anything. He goes on to tell us that he told my brother to GPS his way home the best he can and to not worry about the restaurant. We were almost done eating anyway.

Not having my brother for dinner wasn’t even the worst part. It was the uncomfortable yelling that my dad gave to my brother once he got home. So that brings me back here right now as I type. I am still in my dress. Makeup on, shoes on, hair done and everything, but my smile has disappeared. I hate when my dad gets after me, but I hate it most when he gets after my brother.

My Saturday was going so great up until this point, but a bad day does not mean a bad life. Here are my best tips on how to get over a bad day.

  1. Give yourself some privacy and just let it all out. Write it down, call a friend and vent, take a shower and cry in it, sing, dance, do exercise…do whatever it personally takes for you to get that negative energy out.
  2. Treat yourself to an at home spa. You can give yourself a pedicure, put a refreshing face mask on, prepare a warm bubble bath and relax, listen to music etc…
  3. Tell yourself that a bad day does not mean that you have a bad life. One thing I personally do is listen to motivational speeches on YouTube. It is really inspiring. You should try it 🙂
  4. Since you are already on YouTube, look up some funny videos! Kitten and Puppy videos are the best medicine. If you have Instagram, you can also find some cute videos on there. If animals aren’t your thing, look up something that is! Whether it is hair and makeup, vlogs, music videos, workout videos, documentaries, you name it!

I really hope these four tips help you guys get over a bad day. If there is something you do in order to get over a bad day that I may not have mentioned, but works for you, feel free to comment below! That is going to be it for today’s blog, but I want you all to know that I am feeling better already and I have only done step 1 out of 4 🙂 Thank you for reading and turn your frown upside down. Smiles never go out of style.

Stay stylish everyone.

Colors That Do Not Get Along

About three years ago when I was a senior in high school, is when I first discovered the fashion designer, Betsey Johnson. I loved that her purses had wacky prints or were random items like pastries or telephones, but my first purse from her was one of her simple styles. It is an off-white medium sized bag with heart shaped stitching all over it. It’s black strap is wrapped inside of a gold chain and it even has a light pink and black bow in the front with a gold pendant in the center that reads ‘Betsey Johnson’ inside a black heart. If this is confusing to picture in your head, just look at the image below!

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I bought this bag at Dillards, but it was also available in Betsey Johnson’s online store, a store I did not look at until much later. There was three different styles of this bag. There was a leopard printed one, a floral printed one, and then the solid off-white color that I ended up purchasing. I was so happy that I had gotten my first designer bag that was not boring and a decent price. I loved it so much that I had to show it off at school the next day. Little did I know that I was going to get one of the biggest fashion shocks of my life!

The next day arrived and I ditched the backpack and decided I would take my purse and carry a binder. I laugh about this because this is the time period I was transitioning from a teenage punk tomboy and into a young lady who had that girly-with-an-edge style. My punk self would roll her eyes at ‘basic bitches’ who always carried their binders instead of putting all their junk in a backpack. It made no sense to me! Anyways, there I was a few years later doing the exact same thing, and I honestly felt like an entirely different person. I got a lot of compliments and smiled to myself almost the entire day until it happened.

Halfway through the day during my journalism class I had to take a bathroom break. Right after I washed my hands, I looked at myself in the mirror and decided I would place my purse from my right shoulder to my left shoulder. As I removed this bag, I freaked the hell out when I saw that my gorgeous off-white bag had what looked like blue pen stains smeared all over the back. I remember staring at the back of my purse bug-eyed and almost in tears. HOW THE HELL DID THIS HAPPEN!? I kept asking myself. I immediately got some hand soap and began to scrub the back of my purse with my hand as best as I could, but the ugly blue stain remained. I began to panic. How would I explain this to my mom?! Why didn’t I just take my backpack to school?! Since when did it matter to me how pretty and girly I looked?! How did this happen?! Why me?!

WHY, WHY, WHY, WHY, WHYYYYYYY!!!?????

I pulled myself together and stepped out of the restroom with the best poker face I could muster and went to class acting like nothing happened. My next class was choir and I reunited with my two best friends and unleashed on them what happened. I then look at one of my friends old backpack and saw that it was dirty and lo and behold, covered with what looked like pen marks! Our bags were next to each other during lunch I thought to myself. Then I got pissed and although I hate admitting it, I blamed my friend and her dirty backpack for staining my purse.

I was so pissed off. My friends calmed me down and smacked me in the face with some real talk about how you should not carry a light colored bag when you’re wearing black from head-to-toe. For those of you that suspected that I was wearing dark clothing, you totally guessed it. Although I was now in skinny jeans, flats instead of sneakers, and blouses instead of strictly band-tees, I still hadn’t been comfortable enough to wear much color. Although their explanation of how dark clothing rubbing against a light colored bag made sense to me after what happened, I was still upset.

If they knew about this, why didn’t they tell me before this happened? A warning would’ve been nice! When I told them this, they replied saying something similar to this, “We thought you knew!” They advised me to was off the stain with Clorox when I got home which is the first thing I did. Fortunately for me, it worked and removed the dark stain that was on my bag. Once I knew my purse was going to be okay, I swear I nearly cried in relief.

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Christmas (Shopping) In July

As of today we are five months away from Christmas day. Although I used to believe that Christmas in July was nonsense, I am going to try doing my shopping little by little as the second half of the year progresses so I don’t find myself stressing out over last minute shopping or running low on funds. I know for some of you, if may be way too early to be thinking about Christmas, but this year I would like to be able to enjoy the holidays instead of stressing out about what gift I am going to give so-and-so.

Correct me if I am wrong, but do you ever feel that the amount of stress prior and sometimes during and after the holidays lasts way longer than the holiday itself? In my book, it is not worth the stress for one day. I am not a holiday hater by no means, don’t get me wrong. I am very family oriented and I do enjoy seeing relatives and friends from out of town, but ohhhh-emmmm-geeeeeee do I stress out when certain relatives have grudges against one another or friends cancel on plans last minute or the gift doesn’t fit or show up on time or all the kids that go psycho with their toys and break something. Oh, and do not get me started with feeling rushed because you are trying to make time for everyone important in your life. I feel a bit overwhelmed just reading this.

Anyways, I am writing this blog today in hopes that I can help you save some stress by starting your shopping in advance. If you see something at the store today and think someone you know will like it, buy it! Who says you have to wait until December to start thinking about these things? Here is my list of the most important people to shop for in my life…

  • Mom- Do I really need to explain why?
  • Dad- If I buy something for one parent, I cannot forget the other!
  • Brother- He’s not the stereotypical older brother you see in TV shows. I don’t deserve how great he is to me as a sister.
  • Best Friend- She is the closest thing I have to a sister. We’ve been friends for 10 years already now!
  • My boyfriend- He’s the love of my life!
  • Cats- I am a crazy cat lady and pets are part of the family too!

I will have to save the most money for these people in my life. Even though they do not ask me for much, I still want to give them something they really want or need.

The second list is composed of couples around my age who are either my cousins or friends. They are….

  • My cousin Javier and his girlfriend Miranda- they’ve been together for a long time and I think I really know what their interests are.
  • My friends Jaqui and her boyfriend- I actually still have their gift from last year. It was a cute house to put in their rat’s cage. I think I will include something else with it for them this year.
  • The wedded couple! – This will be their first Christmas as husband and wife! I got to make the gift count.
  • My YouTuber and fashion-forward friend Nikole and her boyfriend Bryan- I met them through my boyfriend, and I know they looked after him throughout the years before I entered his life. I really owe them.

Although there may be more people that will enter my life that I may want to give them something, these are the people who are on my list as of right now. I see my best friend today and although I won’t be able to give her a gift this year, I really hope I can find an awesome Christmas gift to make up for it!

Consider getting a head start in gift shopping to avoid stressing out later. While everyone is frantically searching in stores, you can be occupied enjoying the atmosphere of the holidays and take the time to admire it in its beauty. Even if you do not celebrate Christmas, think of all the things you’d rather be doing during the holidays instead of shopping for everyone else except yourself!

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As always, have a great day and stay stylish!